We love what is easy, comfortable and beautiful first. We love the romance of love and want to be
carried away on a bed of roses. We want
to be blind to the faults of whom we love so we are never tested on the depth
of our love. We want to be loved
wholly, consistently and completely without ever questioning the validity of
it. We want to believe the fantasy of
Fantasies are not real.
They are our extravagant and unrestrained imagination. They are a conjuration created to fulfill a
psychological need. Fantasies cannot
feed your spirit, they can only block the Light from you. Fantasies are half-sighted as they do not
take the needs of the other person into consideration, yet they seem to rule
the journey of love we thing we are on.
If you look deeper into your fantasy, with courage and open eyes you can
uncover what you really need form love and what beliefs are blocking it.
Love is magic and that is why we covet its perfection and
think it can cure all of our ills. Love
is magic because it is a transformational process. We change and grow and stretch through loving
and being loved, making the true expression of love a very messy process. It’s ok to fight, cry, rebel and anger
because when we do these things with whom we love we are evolving. When we step out of our own limited
perspective and understand that whom we love is doing the same thing, it is no
longer a struggle against but a struggle together.
This is why love magic, to be successful and long lasting,
has to be an internal process. You must
cast the spell upon yourself and remove the blinders that make love a
halfsighted fantasy. Casting a spell
upon yourself is not self-hypnosis, or tricking your mind. It is opening your heart and healing the
wound that stops you from filling your life with light and love. WE ALL DO IT. We all have challenges with relationships;
romantic, friendship, colleagues, and family and when you bring love spells
into your life you are allowing a wider perspective and a calmer soul. The struggle to create a perfect world is
released and appreciation for the joy you already have around take root in your
heart. Magic grows faster from a place
of gratitude because it has already been fertilized with the inherent magic of
Casting a love spell that starts with your own healing is
simple and easy – but will create big change.
All you need to start the process of transforming fantasy into reality
is a Coventry love candle (see choices below) , a piece of lined paper, a red
pen and a black pen.
Light your candle while setting the intent of healing the
belief you have that blocks deep love from entering your life.
Fold the paper in half the long way, tucking the right side
under the left side. Get out your red pen.
At the top write – “My Fantasy” and then start writing line
by line a list of what your love fantasy is.
Go ahead and get into it! No one
will see this list but you. Take your
time and let the energy of the love candle sweep you away.
When that list is done and you have exhausted all of your
fantasies – unfold the paper and look at the blank half. This blank half is what you didn't see that
blocks you from experiencing – it’s the half-sightedness of fantasy.
Write at the top of the right side – “My Beliefs”
Spend a moment meditating on your love candle and filling
your entire being with its light. Allow
the expectations and energy of others fall out through your root chakra,
clearing your connection to the earth and allow your own judgments to bubble up
and out of your crown chakra clearing your connection to the divine. Visualize the energy of the earth and the
energy of the divine filling you, combining with your energy and your essence
starts to glow like the ambient light of a candle flame.
From this place look at each line of your fantasy and ask
yourself what belief you carry that influenced that part of your fantasy. Go through each line, one by one and let
your divine self show you what belief is in charge of that fantasy. It may be one large belief or it may be
several small ones.
When you are done with this list, don’t stop now! Flip the page over and start telling the
story of that belief; where it came from, how you feel about it and how you are
rewriting it at this moment. When you
understand how it needs to be rewritten, you will understand what actions you
need to take in your like to rewrite that belief in your thoughts, words and
deeds. Write those actions down on a
new piece of paper. Keep that paper
close to you and refer to it often as you build new opportunities to love and
be loved in your life.
This is a journey you are embarking upon where each step
forward is another opportunity to learn about yourself. Your magic starts working in the very first
step because you are casting love upon yourself and finding it everywhere you
Candles for Love:
Attraction – Love
Soul Mate Affirmation
The Seed of Magic are found in your imagination and planted in your deeds.